Wednesday, July 29, 2015

The Gift of Summer Boredom



I remember my childhood summers fondly. Days in which I would leave the house after a still sleepy, leisurely breakfast of cereal that I made myself and come home only for lunch in the middle of a day spent entirely outdoors. We did not live in town and, thus, playmates were limited to siblings and the cousins who lived down the road. Our backyard became the playground in which our imaginations would run wild- turning those few acres into magical forests, the tiny creek into a raging river and our trusty dog, Rex, played the many roles of horse, monster and any other creature that we children did not want to play. By the dreaded end of the three months of summer break we were tan from our hours in the sun, full of the memories of a thousand magical moments and bonded to our siblings in a way that winter’s forced hibernation never seemed to connect us. 





Today, I live on the same acreage that I did as a child. My children have the blessing of having the same grassy patches to scratch their bare feet as they run through it, the same creek to stomp through and catch tadpoles, and not the same dog, but their very own energetic pup to imagine away the days with.

However this is not the same world as twenty, thirty years ago. There are screens everywhere in the house to demand attention- televisions with hundreds of channels, computers with access to a thousand entertaining sites, tablets stocked with apps. There is also no longer the expectation of a stretch of an unscheduled three months. Their school friends tell competitive stories of elaborate vacations, spending time weekly traveling to all of the local attractions- various parks, the zoo, the science center, all the festivals, which come breezing through town. On the very first day of school they will be asked to list their favorite activities of the summer and no longer are the lists filled with things like finding old barn wood to make a bridge over a creek or a day spent in imaginative play with their siblings.



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Our children have become used to being entertained every minute. In our house, we have limits on electronics and kick the kids outside on a nice day just as our parents did before us. Yet, the new cry of childhood seems to be “I’m bored”, which is certainly not a new childhood expression but now has seemed to have morphed to not really just mean “I’m bored”, but “Please find something to entertain me, as I no longer can entertain myself even for a short period of time”.

We have made a choice in this household to do what is no longer expected of children in many households. We refuse to spend our days scheduling our children’s every hour. There will be many days with no plans at all, when they will be sent outside with only the grass and the trees and their own imaginations to entertain them.
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The screens will be turned off and our children will find that times of quiet can be just as entertaining, or even more so, than brightly colored graphics and cloying music leaping off of a screen. They will bond with their brother and sister, making memories that they will replay in their minds well into adulthood. Even though sunscreen will be religiously applied, they will leave summer with a glow on their skin, which will also sport the bruises that scrapes that come from climbing trees, stomping through creeks and chasing the dog the field.

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This summer I will be giving my children the greatest gift of all- boredom. For inside boredom is the gift of getting to know your own mind, of finding solace and joy in nature and in the realization that the greatest gifts are experiences, not things. And, maybe- just maybe, on that first day of school list my children will write at the very top of the list one of the simple joys found in a summer’s day spend outdoors, no screen in site.


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24 comments:

  1. What a lovely post! Thank you for sharing your wisdom...

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  2. I totally agree! That's how I grew up too! Thanks for helping me remember some of my childhood!

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  3. "Yet, the new cry of childhood seems to be “I’m bored”, which is certainly not a new childhood expression but now has seemed to have morphed to not really just mean “I’m bored”, but “Please find something to entertain me, as I no longer can entertain myself even for a short period of time”." What an insightful point. Great post!

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  4. Its hard to listen to the "I'm bored." I think we have all given at some point. Its worth it in the end.

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    1. I so agree, Catherine. It is very hard, but worth it:

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  5. We have limits on screen time, too. I love the idea of using boredom for self-discovery. It is a lesson that will serve our children well later in life.

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    1. Good for you on screen time limits, S Marie.. It is an importantly lesson!

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  6. Ugh our summers are so hard living in Phoenix. We can't go outside. My son is an only child needing constant attention. We all get bored stuck inside all day. But sometimes I'm grateful for the TV and the tablet if it keeps him entertained if only for a little while.

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    1. That sounds miserable! Best of luck to you!

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  7. Ugh our summers are so hard living in Phoenix. We can't go outside. My son is an only child needing constant attention. We all get bored stuck inside all day. But sometimes I'm grateful for the TV and the tablet if it keeps him entertained if only for a little while.

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  8. Yes, I was talking about this the other day with friends, heaven forbid I tell me son to "play with his toys". A I type this he is on my tablet. I need to learn from you.

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    1. We can all learn from each other! Parenting is hard. Good luck!

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  9. Awww, this made me feel so nostalgic! I'm really hoping my girls will grow up playing outside using their imaginations. TV, phones and tablets are good in their place but nothing beats playing outside!

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    1. If you want them to, they will Tori!

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  10. I feel like this was written for me! We recently moved from a small apartment in a not so good part of town to a wide open space in Texas. It is hard to transition to more outside play but we are working hard on it.

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    1. It can certainly be a challenge to make changes. Good luck!

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  11. This is so great. I feel you hit the nail right on the head. I have a cousin who has her children observe No-Tech Tuesday so they are encouraged to spend more time outside and not sitting right in front of a screen. I hope to be like you when my littles are older (I just have a four-month-old presently). :)

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    1. I love the idea of No Tech Tuesday's! Thanks for sharing!

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  12. My summers were spent exactly the same way! You only need wide open spaces and an imagination to travel whereever your mind can take you. Thank you so much for sharing over at the Country Fair Blog Party! Check back at the end of the month to see who each host picked as their Purple Ribbon Winners.
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